Choosing A Massage Therapist: Male vs. Female

When you make an appointment for a massage at a spa, the receptionist will usually ask if you prefer a male or female therapist.

No matter what sex they are, massage therapists are highly trained professionals who set clear boundaries in the treatment room. This includes maintaining a professional demeanor and using draping techniques, where only the part of the body that is being worked on is exposed.

Both men and women, however, tend to prefer female therapists. Since male therapists aren't as popular, anyone who doesn't have a preference will likely get booked with a male. Some of the reasons people prefer female therapists include:

- People feel vulnerable with their clothes off, and want the option that feels "safest."

- Women think their bodies aren't perfect, and fear a male therapist might be judging them.

- People are worried the massage will be sexualized. Men are afraid the male therapist is gay, and women are worried he isn't.

- Many hetereosexual men find a woman's touch pleasant -- even when it's not sexual -- and find it easier to relax.

However, many experienced spa-goers don't care whether the therapist is male or female. They're already comfortable with the routine, and know the most important factor is the skill of the therapist, not their gender.

In addition, some experienced spa-goers actually prefer male therapists. Male therapists often have more strength, which can be helpful with deep tissue massage, which helps break up longstanding muscle tension.